Am i gay or not i don't want to be i need your help?

Question

ok so i don't want to be gay at all i really don't but i think i am i don't know i am 14 yrs of age but i used to be fat and that devistated me so i got in shape but i love to look at muscles and body builders and lately at night i stay up late and look at gay porn i need your help PLEASE i will have a mental breakdown i don't know i don't want to be at all! i need help and support from people please gay people please if i get good support and help and life stories from people you will get 10 points maybe 20 if it is very good by me asking a nother ques and you just put like a . down fyi just if you wonder but i want to know if i am or not will i change? i am going into 8th gradei don't know if all my friends will treat me the same or just dump me and i become unpopular fyi i am popular! i have had girl friends and i have one now but i just like sex and gay and i trade pics with people over the internet i need SERIOUS HELP PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE my fate is with you!!! i just am so confsd

Answer 1

At 14 you are very curious about sexuality. Looking at gay porn, although is a strange attraction (whose porn are you looking at anyway) does not make you gay. Feeling effeminate, following gay pursuits, and gay sex are what makes you gay. If you find you are sexually attracted only to men and not women, you are considered gay. Even if you are, it's not the end of the world. You should talk to a mental health professional about your feelings. Have your folks set up a counseling appointment right away so you can address the issues in your life theat you want worked out.

Good luck..

Answer 2

You are a teen boy who is 14 years old and likes looking at porn nothing unusual about that.



You're at an age when you are too young to make any firm decision about your sexual preference. There are a lot of hormones running around your brain and they will often give you mixed signals.



I think it is safe to say that you are experimenting.



You are too young to make any decision about your preference because you are a teen, and your mind changes with whatever way the wind blows. There is a lot out there that can catch your attention.



There are a lot of things I did in the past as a teen which have nothing to do with the person I am today.



Just allow yourself to develop slowly, everything in moderation.



Ask yourself, why you are desiring sexual attention from the same sex. At this point it may be a compulsion, it sounds compulsive and impulsive, like you are hunting for attention.



Because you say you are confused, it's a good idea not to try to define whatever emotions you are feeling for the same sex at this point because you are still a teen boy.

Answer 3

When a boy starts to take an interest in his own body and get fit, it's very common for him to start getting interested in other fit boy's bodies too. So it's happened to you, doesn't mean that you've turned yourself gay. You are in the throes of puberty and your body is awash with hormones which will make you feel horny all the time. Practically every thought and feeling is originating in your balls rather than your brain, this is why you are associating male bodies with sex and are susceptible to porn.

It's all completely normal and no reason to fear a mental breakdown or a lifetime of wanting gay sex.

When you are older and start thinking with your head again rather than your balls you will know what your sexual preferences are, now it is too early to say.

Porn is very addictive, whether gay or straight and you need to control this. Stay off the internet particularly at night, don't solicit gay men or you are likely to end up in real trouble. And since you are under age, so are they.

Answer 4

How to avoid porn addiction on the Internet



1. Consider installing porn content filtering software( Strongly Recommend NetDog ,you can get it from www.netdogsoft.com ) on your computer. it will help to protect you from stumbling into pornography by accident, That's important.



2. Do not try to guess what the address of a Web page is. Many pornographic sites have similar addresses of respectable sites. For example www . whitehouse . com is a porn site. The real address is www. whitehouse . gov



3. Never click on Web site addresses that you receive in an unsolicited email.



4. Do not open attachments that come in email that are unsolicited.



5. Use filtered search engines or reputable directories to find the information you need.



6. Do not search for terms like girls. Think before you enter a search term.





Stick with reputable sites.

If something looks questionable, don't let curiosity get the best of you. Delete it or close the window.



Internet Porn Filter Resource:

http://www.netdogsoft.com

Answer 5

Honey...you have every right to be stressed out and worried. You are going through one of the most life-changing moments anybody goes through...and thats finding one's own sexual identity. Being that you are so young, it's going to be doubly hard for you to come out in a society that is sometimes tolerant but generally anti-gay. What you need to do is sit down and think about whats going on in your life. Are you both attracted to men and women? Are you comfortable with the fact that you might be gay or are you scared of coming out to your family and friends. I suggest that you seriously evaluate what you want out of life, but whatever you do, it's best to be true to yourself. Face it....if you're gay, bi, or straight....you need to be honest with yourself and those around you. Why be with a girl when you really want to be with a boy? The hardest part of course is coming out. This is something that you don't necessarily have to do now. You should only tell others when you feel it is the best time. When you are fully comfortable with who and what you are. Good luck hun, it's great that you are not in denial at this age...in fact 14 is a great time for you to evaluate what your sexuality is. If you have any more questions or need support....I am here for you.

Answer 6

you're actually not born gay, so as that meana you are able to decide on no be counted if or no longer you will possibly desire to be gay. there is isn't a different answer. If that's what you desire then choose for it, if no longer, then do no longer complication approximately it.

Answer 7

I'm straight but one of my former best friends when through the same thing as you that age. He struggled with the same questions.

Are you in any way attracted to females? If the answer is no, then you are most likely gay. If you are not sure, contemplate it. Do you like looking at girls?



If you like both guys/ and girls you could be bisexual.



You're young so your thing for looking at guys/gay porn could be out of curiosity. You may just wind up growing out of it.



The main question though is if you are in any way attracted to females. That could be the determining factor for you.

Answer 8

okay...breath!! Only you know if you're gay or not...and if you like to look at male gay porn and you get turned on...and you'd rather be with a man, then, i'm thinking you're gay! but, there ain't nothing wrong with being gay...that's who you are...embrace it...

i grew up in a place where gays were not welcomed and people made fun of them..so, i feel for you if you have to go through that...

i'd hope that in this time and age, people would be a little more understanding of that...

but, you can't help who you are...learn to love yourself and deal...

Answer 9

Ok calm down! really being gay is not some horrible thing. I have plenty of gay friends and they are great people. Only ignorant people see it has some abomination. But basically it boils down to this. Are you attracted to other men? If the answer is yes, then hey you're probably gay, maybe even bi. Whatever your orienation, don't freak and if you don't want people to know, then don't tell them. good luck.

Answer 10

Bottom line, if you find yourself attracted to men, you're at least bisexual and there's really nothing you can do to change that.



You have to ask yourself though:



Would you rather, be yourself, and lose a few people who were never real friends to begin with, or hide your true feelings, and never really be with someone you really want to be with, all to keep those few people in your life that probably don't need to be there in the first place?

Answer 11

Hi muscleman. I sympathize with you, and want you to know that you don't have to be gay if you don't want to. First of all, gay is just a label -- it's how you feel about yourself that really matters -- if you don't want to be gay, then you're not gay ... you are in control.



If you're interested in therapy to help you get rid of feelings you don't want, you can check out the website of the National Association for the Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH) at http://www.narth.com



If you're more interested in seeking pastoral counsel then I recommend Exodus International. They deal with these issues too: they're at http://www.exodus-international.org



If those two don't interest you there are many more organizations designed to help you take control of your feelings: http://www.traditionalvalues.org/resources/index.php

Answer 12

listen man dont listen to anyone you are not gay!!!! ok? there is nothing wrong with wanting to be muscalure I want to be to but it is the choises we make in life that effect who we are g to your local gym,swim anything to get active and stay healthy,you are not gay nomatter what anyone tells you or you belive, if you dont want to be gay your are not!!!!! ok I know A guy that can help you with porn and being fat and make you a strong musculare man who will have a perfect life and raise a perfect family,,if you want to know more e-mail me or contact me I wana help you and I know he does to

Answer 13

You may be attracted to overall male prow-less men emasculating themselves. You may also be attracted to sex in general. Think of and old man emasculating himself and see if you are attracted to it. You may be gay bi or just sexually explicit if you want help with porn addiction let me know.

Answer 14

In general, are you more sexually attracted to men than to women? If so, you're gay. There's nothing wrong with that. If not, you're not gay. Plenty of straight men have homosexual fantasies.

Answer 15

You are still young. Are you a virgin? Have you tried gay sex and enjoyed it? Or have you done a girl? You're still young. Hormones are raging and don't jump to conclusions.

Answer 16

hey hun.....your fate of being gay or not lies wih you not anyone else because that is your choice....just because you like to look at muscles doesnt mean your gay at all...i like to look at female magazines with models that have very nice lean muscle tone but not because im gay but simply beacuse i appreciate the healthy female form and like to see how i can conform my body to look more like theirs...kinda like modivation....there is a diffrence in being attracted and simply appreciatin'....love daisy

Answer 17

hey, relax first of all



don't be desperate... chicks fall in love with guys that are not easy to scare. and now let me answer to your question: no you are not, and even if so you would not stop of being a human, a person. and your mates will have to show respect to you.



but since you haven't mentioned it, u had any kind of relationship with girls?

Answer 18

dude your totally gay i just read that you have sex with you bf 5 times a day who are you trying to kid

Answer 19

i think ur gay if u look at gay porn and stuff! but its ok 2 be gay! whatever makes u happy!!!

Answer 20

it is ok being gay i you could admit it when your ready



you could probably change if you stopped looking at porn



could you send me a pic of you, i could send you a pic of my gay friend :)

Answer 21

im not gay

but its just better off to tell people in thr right time.

:P

Answer 22

Gay prob not, bi maybe