Is death my only recourse?

Nobody

2009-03-13 11:24:49 UTC

Sorry if my answer wasn't what you were expecting; however, I usually stay within the Computer Science area...

Anyway...I was actually thinking of this the other day. I had one girlfriend my entire life, and the only time I was able to get one was when had a severe case of anorexia nervosa, it didn't last long...however that wasn't really the point. It's been about 8 years since then, and I'm almost into my 30s now. The point is, I started to think that whoever said beauty didn't matter, lied..and they honestly probably did; however, even if you can speak for the majority of the population that doesn't necessarily mean everyone. Ok, I admit it, I am ugly, it just doesn't bother me anymore.

After the 4th year being single again I had begun to wonder why I was still depressed and I had realized that I was trying to do what others told me to do (my guess is the average person doesn't think much) and try and find happiness in someone else, rather than though myself. I ended up working out a bit, starting college, and interacting with others; and I am still ugly but I have a life, because I chose to. Life is mainly about choice, probably the most powerful of which is a perspective; you can choose to feel sorry for yourself, or you can chose to do something about it. Either way the choice is completely, up to you; I chose NOT to waste my time though, and even though I STILL don't have a significant other after 8 long years, I never regretted anything I've done since I picked myself up off the ground.

To be quite honest though, if I was in your poison I would consider seeking professional help; you have a few signs of a few mental disorders, and that may be causing your depression. I took a look at the pictures you sent; if that actually is you, you don't appear to have any huge physical abnormalities (actually any at all), and really, you should probably consider going to a mall or something; you honestly don't look much different from people that appear to be around the same age group. Not to sound rude, but there are tons of people that are worse off in the looks department than you are; imagine if you lost all you're hair at 15, I know a person that has. If you do choose to seek help though, be careful what you say. I myself was forcefully drugged and restrained for about 12 hours because I was put on a 5150 and considered a risk to others . I'm sure others will disagree with me telling you the truth, but hey, least you actually know.

All in all, life isn't perfect; humans aren't perfect. Why you seem to feel you have to have someone special in your life I am not quite sure, but how you feel about it is your choice. As I stated before, I had somewhat of the same feeling a while back; I've left a link to a book that helped me out alot, and perhaps it can do the same for you. The book will explain a lot of theories to WHY you have the feelings you do, and believe me, you're not alone, you never have been.

Just to answer your question before my answer is reported for NOT answering the question, no, it isn't. If you believe it is logical for someone to kill themselves just because they THINK they are ugly...maybe you should start looking into where your priorities are; and perhaps go one step further and take a few courses related to logic (maybe something in mathematics, chemistry, or physics).

2009-03-13 11:13:10 UTC

Right first of all, you're beautiful, and i'm not just saying that. You truly are very pretty. Just give a smile and let your hair down. Now, you're sounding like i did when i was 13. I started self harming and became bulimic. Do you really want to spend every day hating yourself? You only have one life, and even if you end it, that's it. You don't get a second chance. You don't come back as someone prettier, you lose everything. If you really hate yourself that much, then try some fake tan, and straighten your hair. But you really look fine as you are. I hate it when people think themselves ugly, because tbh it's not you that's ugly. You would never have started to feel this way about yourself if the "pretty girls" hadn't made you feel like you do. Are they worth it though? You write articulately, sound intelligent, look prettier than most and seem like a nice person. You have qualities those girls could only dream of. Life doesn't revolve around the way you look, and it doesnt last long. So just enjoy yourself, get a new group of friends, hit the clubs and think about how much fun your having with yourself and your friends. While they're catching crabs from having unprotected sex and getting drunk with men that they think love them because they're so gorgeous, but actually those men will piiss off when they get what they want. You can revel in the fact you have true friends, and when you finally do meet someone, they love you for you, and it's 100% real.

Head up lovely.

:)

Amy

2009-03-13 11:17:49 UTC

Seriously, I was not expecting someone so normal looking in the picture after you described yourself. You are perfectly average. Try going and getting a makeover....learn how to fix your makeup and hair...you will be very pretty. You look no worse then I do without makeup and I get plenty of male attention even though I am married. Really if you feel this bad about yourself you may not be getting looked at because men want a woman who can hold her head high with confidence and have fun (even on a bad hair, acne, etc. day). YOu are not ugly. MAybe you need to talk to someone you trust about how you feel. YOu really sound depressed and I think you need some help. Again, that picture if that really is you was not what I was expecting from your description. I think you have a messed up perception of yourself.

peanut

2009-03-13 11:17:24 UTC

I'll bet you are not as ugly as you claim to be. I"m not so cute either. Putting on mascara really brings out the beauty of the eyes. Make-up evens skin tone. Hair styles and change of color is a nice way to enhance your face. Earrings are a good accessory. Try not to project what you think ofthe people think. It is noy healthy. Hands and feet should be soft. You can polish your nails and toe nails. People always notice that. I used to know this guy who said, 'I don't even like you but you have the most beautiful feet I've ever seen." Fresh breath is a must. Alot of times we look like ugly ducklings and then grow up to be better looking. Don't give up. We all have a special reason for being here.

Gin&Colonic

2009-03-13 11:11:30 UTC

OMG You're beautiful! I'm not just saying that either. I can't believe people have made you feel anything but. I was expecting some sort of horrorifyingly disfigured person the way you describe yourself. I think you definitely need to find the "diamond in the rough" inside yourself because to me you look very artsy and deserve a doting boyfriend.

I've dealt with self confidence issues myself because of the verbal abuse I endured as a child from my schoolmates and family. You're not alone feeling this way. I was hospitalized in April after a bad breakup because I felt broken and not good enough to live and be apart of anyone's life because I only ruin it. I'm learning that this is not the case at all. If you ever need anyone to talk to you can email me anytime. I think I could help you and it makes me sad that someone who has such pretty blue eyes, full pouty lips, and the cutest ringlettes could ever feel that way about herself.

2009-03-13 11:20:01 UTC

First of all, I looked at your picture and I don't think you are ugly at all! I actually think you have nice skin, nice lips, and wonderful eyes. I could only see the first picture because I had to have a password to see the others. I don't think there's anything ugly about you actually.

Suicide is definitly not the answer because there is nothing wrong with your looks.

Because I can't email I am asking you to go into my yahoo answers page and email me and give me your email address, , or if you go on msn messenger give me your messenger email so that we can talk.

If you don't have any friends that ask you to go out, I don't think it's because you're ugly, I think it may be something else. Your attitude maybe?

I was a loner in high school, I didn't go out on friday nights... In fact, I hated going out on friday nights and I still dont like it. It's not that great, because everyone is only looking to get laid for that night. Anyways, email me if you can. I'd like to talk to you.

2009-03-13 11:12:54 UTC

You don't look ugly to me! my friend had a form of anorexia, and she thought she was hideous! She isn't, and neither are you! If you think a little more highly of yourself, then maybe you wont have as much trouble making friends (I hope that doesn't sound mean!) Just remember this: suicide is never the answer, all it will do is hurt everyone who is close to you!

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2016-10-25 13:54:32 UTC

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snooper

2009-03-13 11:12:32 UTC

You're not ugly!

Trust me, if you saw some people in my school, then you'd feel a whole lot better.

Get a haircut or something, straighten it, curl it, whatever, and start wearing makeup. Experiment with different hairstyles and makeup styles.

Trust me, you're not ugly. And I'm not just saying that.

If it makes you feel any better, I have a skin disorder.

And it's on my FACE.

2009-03-13 11:13:44 UTC

I know of several people who would love to be as beautiful as you, stop dwelling on your looks. you have no disfigurement or huge scars.

you are lucky to have the good looks you do, now get off your pity party, and go be glad your healthy, and not disfigured and ugly.

2009-03-13 11:24:30 UTC

Wow I'm not sure where you got the idea you are ugly.

2009-03-13 11:14:01 UTC

what makes you think you are ugly??? you look fine to me you need to see a counselor do not hurt your self........